Growing Pains
I'm a senior in a secular H. S. I've never dated and I'm not looking for anyone serious right now, but there is a boy who is interested in hanging out with me. I don't want to mislead him and think I'm interested in dating him later, but I also don't want to cut him off by turning him down to just hanging out. I'm not even sure if I don't "like" him, but I'm really confused. Should I accept his friendship?
18, Female
Confused is probably the best word to describe what you might be going through right now. :)
And if you're confused, you probably have "feelings" either for the guy or the "idea of getting into a relationship" with a guy. You're not 'looking for anything serious' and he's just asking if he can 'hang out' - which seems to be not that serious.
So, I think you should talk and maybe even hang out.
But clearly communicate that you're not interested in anything serious. Be sure to draw clear boundaries. People usually have the greatest regrets from their senior year in high school. All because they were confused, unsure and did not clearly communicate their true feelings.
Don't go with the flow but be very intentional about the direction you're heading in life. Decide to be faithful to God in your relationships. Decide to honor God with your body, mind and spirit. The more clear you become about who you are and who you want to be, the less confused you'll be about situations like this.
So, accept the friendship with very clear conditions. If he's cool with the conditions and respects your conditions, he's probably someone worth hanging with. But if he's not, he's probably someone you shouldn't be hanging out with.
My mom reads my diary.
17, Female
LOL!
3 questions for you.
1. What did she find out?
2. Are you relieved that she did? :)
3. What would have to happen for her to 'not have to read it' but hear it from you?
No matter how old school your mom is, she's got your back. She's the one person in the world that might freak, get hysterical at the way you dress or talk --but she's the only one who'll do that for you every single time, because she loves you to death.
You can never make her "unlove" you or not care about you. It's just how she's wired.
The moment she had you--she has and will always want to know everything there is to know about you.
So talk to her.
Endure through her 'Korean FOB Azumma-ness" and dare to love her with all your heart.
Because later down the road, you'll be glad you did.
Justing Yang is attending Andrews University for his Master of Divinity. You can contact him at justin@englishcompass.org